βLike youβre getting a massage while wearing a winter coat.βΒ Thatβs the analogy comedian Ari Shaffir once used to describe wearing condoms, playfully jesting in the same stand-up set that men shouldnβt always have to wear them.Β And Shaffirβs obviously not the first guy to try and get out of using barrier protection.
The βbut I canβt feel anything when I wear one/I canβt orgasm with a condom onβ is a common trope among men who attempt to guilt their sexual partners into going bareback.
Itβs also becoming worryingly widespread.
According to the latest data from theΒ National Debrief Survey, a whopping 75 per cent of young Australians have recently had sex without a condom. Which is particularly concerning, givenΒ researchΒ shows STIs are currently on the rise.
The fact is, even if condoms did result in decreased sensitivity for penis owners, this wouldnβt be excuse enough to forgo one, given the risk factors involved. But while Shaffirβs description might have held true for condom wearers at one point in history, itβs certainly no longer the case today.
Advancements in condom technology mean barrier protection is thinner than ever before, allowing for heightened sensitivity and comfort.
MOMENTS offer an Ultra Thin range that even comes in Extra Large sizing, so thereβs truly no excuse not to put one on. (Also, I recentlyΒ put a Regular size MOMENTS condom over my footΒ to show just how ludicrous the suggestion is that there are guys who are simply βtoo bigβ to cover up).
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In truth, thereβs no excuse for a partner to gamble with your sexual health.Β Everyone has a right to safe sex, and anyone who tries to guilt you into thinking otherwise doesnβt deserve access to your body.
Also, while the orgasm gap still exists (the most extensive study into gender and pleasure found straight men get off 95 per cent of the time during partnered sex, while their female partners climax just 65 per cent of the time), your go-to response to a guy who insists he wonβt climax if he wraps up should be, βCool. Solidarity, bro. I wonβt be coming either.β
Nadia BokodyΒ is aΒ sex columnist, media personality and MOMENTS ambassador.
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